I just had a great weekend with family that I haven’t been with in years and met a lot of new cousins as well. There was so much joy in the air and a lot of great food. The center of attention was on the beautiful bride, who was shimmering with radiant beauty. But my focus was on my cousins wife who just lost her husband, partner, friend and father of their four kids and too many grandkids and great-grandkids to count.
Sharon was always the quiet one of the loving couple and is even more so now. She was beautiful and resilient during the service, sitting right in front of a photo of her beloved John. She stoically held back the tears, not wanting to ruin her granddaughters special day. I would have been a blubbering fool.
They met when she was only 13 and she has never been apart from him until the last few months. She’s learning to change the lightbulb in her oven and take care of things she never gave a moment’s thought about. She’s learning about their finances, and who really wants to learn about things like that right now?
She had tons of family circling around her this weekend, but she was the sole survivor on an island full of silent grief. She didn’t want any special treatment, she just wanted to sit quietly while the joyous world swirled around her.
I admire her even more because she has shown the world a lovely resilience while holding her grief deep inside. She prefers to quietly grieve alone late at night away from the hustle and bustle of the busy young families. She craves no spotlight, she wants her life to resume to normal, but it will be a different normal that she has to get used to.
I want to share a special scripture with her and other people who are going through the loss of a loved one. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not try to understand why we grieve. For we should not dwell on our sorrow, but believe that He will guide us safely and lovingly through the next chapter in our lives.” Proverbs 3:6
I love you Sharon and pray for you to find comfort in having shared a long and wonderful life with such a happy, loving and handsome man. Dapper John, her partner in life and death.