You know the hardest thing about forgiveness? We have to let go of the pain that has become a part of our very being. It’s the silent partner that wakes up with us bright and early and cuddles down next to us at night. Pain is like a badge that we proudly wear on our chest to show the world that we are survivors and that we can face anything or anyone down.
Recently, I have been wearing that badge a lot and yelling out, “I am Woman, Hear Me Roar” to the world through my posts in this blog. It probably didn’t help at all, but it felt good to vent and get out my frustrations about some very hurtful things that have been happening to me.
But after awhile, the pain became a burden that started to control my life. I need to talk about it with friends, about who caused my pain and how it makes me feel deep inside. Therapists will tell you that this is the healthiest way to deal with it. Get it out, like you would cut out a cancer growing inside. But does that really work or make it seem even worse?
I believe that we need to think about how God feels when we disappoint Him. Does He turn from us and get angry, or does he embrace us and say that it is water under the bridge, it’s in the past so let’s move away from it and let it go? He shows us concern and compassion and understanding no matter what we did to cause Him pain. He believes in our core goodness and shows us unlimited love. He forgives us of our sins every day, no matter how small or big they are.
The true act of forgiveness is to let the pain completely go out of our heart and soul. It actually has nothing to do with us, it is the other person’s anger inside of them that made them strike out and hurt us. Therapy is certainly an important part of the healing process but prayer is the key to forgiveness.
Pray that God helps us forgive so that we can love the person that hurt us. Pray that God softens their heart and fills their life with compassion and love. For “There is no love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without love.” Bryant H. McGill